Happy Birthday, Mum: on grief and memories
Amanda and Anne, June 2006, celebrating the completion of my Master's degree I am learning that the second year after a loved one dies is, in many ways, more challenging than the first. People have told me it might be, and it is proving so. There are no more 'firsts' to experience, only 'forevers' now. So, I am paying attention and I am writing... Today, November 4th, would have been my mother's 97th birthday. Wherever she is now, I am certain she is happy not to be marking it on earth. She died last year on April 26th, ready to shuck her mortal coil with dignity and in peace. She was a role model for me in many ways, so, today, I celebrate my mother with three stories that illustrate her generosity, kindness and ingenuity. Story One: The bucket of chicken We were having take-out for supper; I don’t remember the occasion, but I remember very clearly being in the car with my sister and brother, and Mum ordering our meal in the drive-through at our local Kentuck...